Comments on: If i give up smoking will my personality change? http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 20:49:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Russ http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-106526 Russ Sun, 04 Jan 2009 23:07:31 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-106526 My situation so far has been a lot like alex's. I have two smoker friends (who are also my best friends) that just don't seem to give a damn that I'm making such a tough decision. One replied, "Well then....I will not be joining you!" and the other said I'll give you both (my quitting partner and I) a month before you're smoking again. Its almost awkward to ride around in the car with them before and after work...and it feels like there's this atmosphere of "them against me." Almost as if one says "hey, want a cigarette? too bad Russ won't be enjoying one with us." i don't know how our relationship is going to change, but hopefully we can look past this soon or else i just might lose my two best friends : ( My situation so far has been a lot like alex’s. I have two smoker friends (who are also my best friends) that just don’t seem to give a damn that I’m making such a tough decision. One replied, “Well then….I will not be joining you!” and the other said I’ll give you both (my quitting partner and I) a month before you’re smoking again. Its almost awkward to ride around in the car with them before and after work…and it feels like there’s this atmosphere of “them against me.” Almost as if one says “hey, want a cigarette? too bad Russ won’t be enjoying one with us.”

i don’t know how our relationship is going to change, but hopefully we can look past this soon or else i just might lose my two best friends : (

]]> By: yellowkate http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-89931 yellowkate Mon, 21 Jul 2008 17:08:24 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-89931 I've just quite with my partner, and its been tough with arguements most days. The love for each other reasons the stress as it will mean that we will be able to ahve healthier children, animals, nice smelling house and a longer lasting marriage. The reality of my mother being diagnosed with lung cancer this year and the pain of potentially loosing her because of a 40 year smoking habit is beyuond belief, which is why I was so determined to make sure I will not purposefully put myself through that with the next closest people to me. As a friend said, if you are determined enough to go through the initial feeling of a bad breath, coughing and feeling sick, bad skin, low energy and wasting time thinking about your next fag, you have the determnaion to quite. This message was great to suuport my changes in personality, health and well-being. Big Love I’ve just quite with my partner, and its been tough with arguements most days. The love for each other reasons the stress as it will mean that we will be able to ahve healthier children, animals, nice smelling house and a longer lasting marriage. The reality of my mother being diagnosed with lung cancer this year and the pain of potentially loosing her because of a 40 year smoking habit is beyuond belief, which is why I was so determined to make sure I will not purposefully put myself through that with the next closest people to me.

As a friend said, if you are determined enough to go through the initial feeling of a bad breath, coughing and feeling sick, bad skin, low energy and wasting time thinking about your next fag, you have the determnaion to quite.

This message was great to suuport my changes in personality, health and well-being.

Big Love

]]> By: phreaki http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68823 phreaki Sat, 22 Sep 2007 18:44:05 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68823 The worst is when you have a friend say he knows it's killing him. Almost as worse is someone saying smoking tobacco is natural, it has 4,000+ chemicals in it, but Chantix, a one chemical drug is not. Remember, you still have a risk for lung cancer, you've smoked. They may never get lung cancer, but statistics say you have less risk now. When you hit your month, or one year mark, I'd bet they'll start their discovery of how much healthier you are. Congrats, and don't start again because of them, no friend should lead you to your death. The worst is when you have a friend say he knows it’s killing him. Almost as worse is someone saying smoking tobacco is natural, it has 4,000+ chemicals in it, but Chantix, a one chemical drug is not.

Remember, you still have a risk for lung cancer, you’ve smoked. They may never get lung cancer, but statistics say you have less risk now.

When you hit your month, or one year mark, I’d bet they’ll start their discovery of how much healthier you are. Congrats, and don’t start again because of them, no friend should lead you to your death.

]]> By: Alex http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68816 Alex Sat, 22 Sep 2007 14:22:13 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68816 3 days as a non-smoker and all of my friends & family (except 2) are smokers. I see envy in their eyes and comments. Nobody (among smokers) made a positive comment on my quitting! One said :" Ah, you can't really quit! It is too difficult. I guess in a year you will be back smoking again!". He also mentioned, how good smoke he bought this time etc... The other said: NOTHING!! I mean com'on the person knows me for years, knew how much I needed this, and never ever did count on my strength. When I finally did it, he acted like nothing changed! I hate to say it, but I guess this is a good way to choose good friends vs fake friends... 3 days as a non-smoker and all of my friends & family (except 2) are smokers. I see envy in their eyes and comments. Nobody (among smokers) made a positive comment on my quitting! One said :” Ah, you can’t really quit! It is too difficult. I guess in a year you will be back smoking again!”. He also mentioned, how good smoke he bought this time etc…

The other said: NOTHING!! I mean com’on the person knows me for years, knew how much I needed this, and never ever did count on my strength. When I finally did it, he acted like nothing changed!

I hate to say it, but I guess this is a good way to choose good friends vs fake friends…

]]> By: phreaki http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68663 phreaki Sun, 16 Sep 2007 23:27:47 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68663 I wrote this due to quite a bit of negative feedback in the press about personality changes, and being for the 'worse'. I disagreed with it, and I certainly haven't tried to kill my wife. I also had one person insinuate that I had become more argumentative, aka 'asshole' since I quit. I simply didn't have a pacifier in my mouth anymore, and i love it! I wrote this due to quite a bit of negative feedback in the press about personality changes, and being for the ‘worse’. I disagreed with it, and I certainly haven’t tried to kill my wife.

I also had one person insinuate that I had become more argumentative, aka ‘asshole’ since I quit. I simply didn’t have a pacifier in my mouth anymore, and i love it!

]]> By: Stan http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68662 Stan Sun, 16 Sep 2007 23:16:44 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68662 You know, this is a great post! We do change quite a lot after we quit! It made me think of all the ways I've changed...and I've discovered more change than I thought had happened. You know, this is a great post! We do change quite a lot after we quit! It made me think of all the ways I’ve changed…and I’ve discovered more change than I thought had happened.

]]> By: MsTekLady http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68659 MsTekLady Sun, 16 Sep 2007 21:56:11 +0000 http://www.phreaki.com/2007/09/16/if-i-give-up-smoking-will-my-personality-change/#comment-68659 I agree with you. I have definitely changed since I quit smoking and the change is for the BEST! If folks don't agree then that's too bad...that's THEIR problem, not mine! I know relationships with my smoker family and friends will change. Oh, well, that's life! Everything must change...life is full of changes. Not to sound like a big 'ol beeyatch, but when it comes to my quit, it is all about me!!! Period! I will do whatever I have to do to remain smoke-free. If something gets in my way or comprises my quit, I will have to cut it off, even if that means cutting off certain relationships. Real friends will be happy for me and understand, as for others, who cares? I agree with you. I have definitely changed since I quit smoking and the change is for the BEST! If folks don’t agree then that’s too bad…that’s THEIR problem, not mine!

I know relationships with my smoker family and friends will change. Oh, well, that’s life! Everything must change…life is full of changes. Not to sound like a big ‘ol beeyatch, but when it comes to my quit, it is all about me!!! Period! I will do whatever I have to do to remain smoke-free.

If something gets in my way or comprises my quit, I will have to cut it off, even if that means cutting off certain relationships. Real friends will be happy for me and understand, as for others, who cares?

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